Well, this walk is just fine as a podcast - not much to see, as I am with Kyrie, who unlike Tundra, is short, and often not in the frame.
I’m building on the ideas I’ve been developing in other posts - increasing safety for our own soul’s “team,” but also for the people and animals and maybe even our more “official” team members in work and public life. Facilitating a team member in flourishing, in emerging as the most generous, “best,” healthiest and therefore most productive version of their self is, in the long run, a better strategy than forcing, through controlling tactics. But, it is hard!!
I don’t know why our defaults run to the short sharp jerk on the lead rope, the leash, the levers we have available to us to try to manipulate results in the ways we want them to go. It’s hard to be on the receiving end of this sort of jarring, rushing, judgemental energy. Yet, I find myself reaching for that level of control time and again.
I am struck, learning to care for Kyrie, that she does so well if I go slow, give her time to process at her own speed, and pay attention to her needs for time doing things that fill her “cup,” even if her chosen replenishing activities aren’t the same as mine.
And that’s the trick, isn’t it? Reading another person’s preferred pace is almost the same as reading them. It’s something to try, anyway, with anyone you care about.
Including your own selves.
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